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The Good Heart Project

4 Mar


“There is in every true woman’s heart, a spark of heavenly fire, which lies dormant in the broad daylight of prosperity, but which kindles up and beams and blazes in the dark hour of adversity.”– Washington Irving

I am going to document my journey to have a “good heart”. Firstly, I should state that I believe that we all have good hearts but through the process of living they become trampled on, ripped, stained, and misled. So this “Good Heart Project” is a process of returning to my hearts original state, to live in a good way in balance and connected with all that is around me. To love freely and greatly without fear, without want, without conditions.

I am going to be following the teachings of the medicine wheel as was taught to me to incorporate balance. I cannot give anybody what I do not have. Thus, I need to be balanced so that I can love and experience optimally.

A few years ago, my brother would jokingly call me Saint Helen. I volunteered regularly, read my Bible, attended church, and leaked positivism and faith out of every orifice.

Now… my great fall from grace has endowed me with a dirty drunken sailors mouth that pours out cuss words regularly. I fall into bouts of depression which enables my isolation. I have a hard time seeing the bright side, yet never give up the task at hand. Sometimes I am reminded how amazing and interconnected everything is and am in awe of the synchronicity of events but, I forget a few days later when faced with bills or a breaking down car. I’ve been on the brink of a break down atleast a handful of times over the past 6 months, partially due to my state of recovery from addiction/alcoholism and part due to random chemical imbalances, increased work load and stress (full time student and mom).

I am going to reclaim my heart. I want to, no… I need to.

I know, from previous readings and attempts at affirmations that your mental environment is important. So first off, I wanted to tackle something that is really important to me, music. I read a 2009 study done with 24 participants that showed results of music on heart health. The study was actually read on a new piece done on the study so I’m not giving it full weight (link provided below). The study showed that loud fast music constricted blood vessels and increased heart beat, blood pressure and respiration amplitude. Calm music had the opposite effect brought down blood pressure, heart rate, and past studies indicated it to be a reliever of stress.

Hmmm… Does my affinity for punk, alt. rock, indie, and metal put me at higher risk for heart disease? (Joking…?)

Carrying on, this brings to mind a study done by Dr. Emoto on water crystal formation impacted by music, and words. The following is a youtube video so you can pick up what I’m laying down

My first act on the good heart project, however reluctant I may be is to “clean up” my music habits. I’m not saying that certain genres are wrong, I used to rock a 6 inch mohawk, that would never pass through my cherry lips. Nope. I am saying that maybe certain music will more readily mentally/emotionally/spiritually prepare me for the task ahead.

So my playlist went from this,

to something like this,

I haven’t listened to classical consecutively since I was in the fourth grade. I also had to do some scouring for music and found the likes of this agreeable,

which is undoubtedly a faith-based Christian song and super uplifting andfast tempo.

If it’s one thing I learned within the sweat lodge it is that we each (each colour of people) have received their own teachings on how to live and connect with God and its OKAY.

That being said, I also have some peyote songs, pow wow tracks, and eastern meditative music on my list. I commute to an outside community for my practicum placement and down loaded an audio book that focuses on self-development, miracles, and the tao ching to keep my company. Why not? I remember Jack Canfield or Tony Robbins said that audio books and making use of this spare time by learning was an indicator of successful people. Boom! Atleast they didn’t say that country music had to be a part of heart health and success, otherwise I’d be screwed from the start. I mean, that’s a negative comment, counter with a positive = I am growing every day in every way.

I have some other ideas formulated for this project and I am OPEN to suggestions and give myself to be a good-hearted guinea pig. I plan to incorporate meditation, random acts of kindness, nature walks, volunteering, eating habits, cleaning up the cuss words (yes, I fucking said it), adhering to some of my traditional practices that may benefit my heart endeavors, giving clothes and material items away, and so on and so forth.

With love,

Helen K

link to report on study:


Day 2 Project LOL: Living Out Love

29 Dec

It’s easy to say that one day you are going to wake up with the all the warmth of rising sun beams and share some light. It’s easy to say that you will turn the other cheek and look for ways to do good to those that harm you. It is easy to say that you will try your best, in all situations to be a living breathing expression of LOVE. It is always easier said then done.

Today I am going to go and slip my Love Notes around town but I will also leave some Love Notes in not so hidden spaces.. for myself. These Love Notes will remind me about what I want to experience and attempt to embody. I am fully aware of my less than perfect human state which likes to revert back to traditional ways of thinking and doing things. To live a life of love you have to do so purposefully until it becomes second nature.

Thoughts and words all hold power and what you think and say act like magnets to attract more of the same energy into your life. If you have feelings of scarcity, then you will most likely experience a life that is not abundant. If you expect the world to be against you then you will probably experience more hardship and adversity. I believe the world is a friendly place and that things work together for my greatest good. Of course there are days where my mind trails off onto a beaten path where nothing seems to go right and I feel less than worthy and at the farthest point from being an expression of love. So I need to remind myself and affirm these things.

I am putting up simple one word Love Notes around the house where I am most likely to see them. A few words that I am choosing are “LOVE” (of course), “PEACE“, “WELL-BEING“, “THANKFUL“, “HARMONY“, “LIGHT” and “BALANCE“. When I see these words, I will voice them out loud and take a second to summon the feelings that I associate with them. When I come to the word “THANKFUL” I will take a moment to really BE thankful.

I was praying with my 3-year-old son last night and our prayers are full of “Thank you for…” and he makes sure that he doesn’t overlook anything. We thanked the Creator for the curtains, for paintings, for the rain, for the snow, for books, for our fingers and for our toes. If we are to live with that child like innocence and awe, I believe we need to really be thankful for everything and take nothing for granted.

So why does Project LOL include self-love?

It’s simple really. One day I was speaking with an elder from the Okanogan Nation and she said that when you pray, you make sure that you also pray for yourself. When people speak of rocks being thrown into a pond and they cause a ripple and effect everything around them, well we are those rocks. We need to make sure that we are rocks causing ripples in a good way. We need to be our best selves, closest to our highest beings to do so.

I want to take a second to note that everyone was born as a little slice of the Great Cosmic Being with a pure life essence. Through out the course of our lives we become socialized into the culture around us and we assume their habits, beliefs, and ranges of normalcy. These are not all bad but in doing so we sometimes stray further from our real selves. Pain, struggle, and adversity also come into play and when these are internalized we are again taken further from our true beings. Eventually, you may not even resemble what you were meant to be, BUT, you are right where you are supposed to be. Change begins in the present moment and the accumulation of trials and hardships can work together for good if you accept them and search for your light again.

In Robin Sharma’s book “The Saint, The Surfer, and The CEO”, one of the characters says that he is against the term “self-improvement” as it implies that there is something wrong or broken within us that needs to be fixed. The character then argues that it is about “revealing oneself” and that all change should first be taken on “a path of inner discovery, not outer change”.

Reason to Smile: You are already brilliantly beautiful, you just need to realize it.

Signed and Sealed with Love,


Dr. Eric Perry

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